He has never committed to recovery. He does just enough to appease me and then falls back in the cycle. Everything in his life has suffered due to this addiction. Our marriage, grades when he went back to school, family and friend relationships. There are people he has completely cut out of his life because they created “stress” and he couldn’t handle it.

He is at risk of getting in trouble at work because he uses his work phone and computer to act out.

I have tried for the past two years to support him through getting control of this addiction but after a 6 month spell of him lying about porn/chat rooms and why he stopped seeing his therapist I realize there is nothing left for me to hope for.

I try talking to him rationally but there is not a rational person listening. He has gotten so good at justifying his addiction (“I only do it once or twice a week”). But each time he has admitted is usually 6 to 7 hours. Usually at night on the weekend so I end up with a tired, irritable addict for the daytime.

I just wanted to say thank you for this article. It reminded me that I am not unattractive. I am just a real person and not a fantasy on the other end of a computer.