Archives for December 2012

8 year old receives Playboy Magazine offer in the mail

playboy magazine offer to 8 year old boy

In a suburb of Cleveland, Ohio a third grader receives a Playboy Magazine offer in the mail! Should you ever doubt the predatory nature of pornographers, here is case in point. 

The young boy is actually my son. Thankfully, my wife retrieved the mail with the enclosed offer!  Usually my son gets the mail for her, but not on this day.  She was so outraged that she has called and emailed whoever will listen, including Playboy Magazine.

The advertisement was provocative enough that my wife did not want even me to see it. I sat and imagined what his response would have been when he saw a half-naked woman on a piece of mail addressed to him.  There are 2 responses that he would have a choice from, in my mind.

The first and ideal response would have been for him to show his mother and to have her quickly whisk the offer away. Then she would praise him for showing her and using good judgment.  She’d have to explain to him the sinfulness in such magazines and how awful it was for them to send out such offers.

 

playboy magazine offer to 8 year old boy

I image he would have looked like this had he opened the mail

The second response would have been for him to hide the offer and not tell anyone. The offer would be hidden in a secret spot and he would bring it out to ponder and look at the ad.  What a dilemma it would cause for him!  The photo is appealing to him, but he does not fully understand why.  It also makes him feel dirty for looking at it and feeling the need to hide it. 

At his age I know what I would have done – the second response. It was what I did when I found my Dad’s magazines. 

I am very thankful that my wife intercepted the mail today. It seriously is getting me thinking on when and how I have to share with him about ‘the birds and the bees’.  I need to start pouring into him and modeling for him the proper way to treat women – more intentionally.  I need to give him respect for women so that later on when he does get exposed to pornography, he will know for certain it is wrong and will respond to it as in the first scenario above.

Parents, we have a responsibility to protect our kids and mold them into God fearing, people loving adults. Please reflect on what you would do, or would have done in this situation.

I welcome all your comments below!

 

Pornography is a Drug

pornography is a drug

 Pornography is a Drug

This video, produced by fight the new drug sums up how pornography acts on our bodies the same way that drugs do.   Give it a watch and understand why we need to fight against pornography and keep it out our homes, out of our computers and off our television.  If you have not had a good reason to install an internet filter on your computer, (like covenant eyes) this should persuade you.  You do not want your children falling into pornography addiction like I did and so many others are daily, right now.

What to do – getting caught masturbating with pornography

getting caught masturbating

The ultimate in embarrassment – getting caught masturbating with pornography

 

You are flirting with disaster if you are engaged in pornography. Pornography has many side effects to those who use it and those related to the user.  Sooner or later you will get caught!

Even if you clear your internet browsing history or you have a secret folder on your computer you will eventually get caught. The most diligent and mindful person will eventually leave a trail.  Come on, you watch those real life crime shows – the criminal always gets caught. 

I was caught as a teenager by my friend. How embarrassing it was!  I had my magazines out and a knock on my basement window.. you get the idea. Read more about my struggle with porn addiction in my free ebook.

I don’t care how sneaky or brilliant you are at covering up your tracks or using a proxy. The more you use pornography, the greater the risk.  Someone will walk in on you or discover your secret stash.  You will be found out.

So what are you going to do when you get caught? That day when your wife finds your internet history what will you say to her?  When your boss confronts you with the internet sites you visited on company time how will you defend yourself?

Take preemptive action today – Decide you are going to stop and seek some help. You may be addicted to pornography, check against my list of signs you’re addicted to porn.  Go ahead and trash your stash.  If that means reformatting your hard drive, do it.  Erase all tracks and files now.  Read – the first step to quitting pornography

If you do not wish to take preemptive action and quit pornography today, then here is what you need to do when you get caught.

Admit to watching the pornography – Don’t give some lame excuse that someone else was using your computer or that those are not my files. Lying will only complicate things. I know you are embarrassed to admit to it, but you need to fess up.

Don’t blame anyone else for your actions – You have not been watching porn because she doesn’t pay attention to you as much as she used to or because she has gained a few pounds. Get real.  You have been a selfish little jerk.  Pornography turns you on and you knew she wouldn’t have approved of your watching it.  This is why you have been hiding it!  Don’t blame her or anyone else for something you chose to do.

Listen to his/her feelings – You need to shut up and let the other person explain how your behavior has made them feel. This will not be pretty and you will get your head handed to you, but you are not in a position to disregard or downplay their feelings.  Whether you want to admit to it or not, you have betrayed their trust and intimacy.  You have made them feel inadequate and unworthy.  Take your licks and listen.

Seek some good counsel and enroll into an addiction program – get a hold of some pornography counseling contacts and inquire about the process they employ. Do this with your spouse.  Get her involved in this process so she is aware of what you will be doing and understands what is going to happen.  It won’t be easy for either of you.  Rough times are ahead, so decide that you will push through them and on the other side things will be better.

Just remember, you will get caught one day. It’s best to be preemptive and quit now!  The Bible says that your sin will find you out.  While you think you are getting away with it and there are no consequences, eventually it will catch up to you. 

What do you think? I welcome your thoughts and questions below.