Comments for Pornography Addiction Help http://abattleplan.com Resources for Pornography Addiction - addicts & their families Mon, 07 May 2012 23:48:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Four reasons your husband looks at pornography by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2011/04/four-reasons-your-husband-looks-at-pornography/comment-page-1/#comment-1437 R Pike Mon, 07 May 2012 23:48:38 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=340#comment-1437 You are very stressed for sure and he is not a very caring father. I am very sorry you have to go through this. Is he willing to get help? Have you approached him in a somewhat understanding way instead of reacting from stress and frustration? If you can lay it on the line without accusing, scolding and belittling him, you have a better chance of him listening. If you do love him, approach him out of love You are very stressed for sure and he is not a very caring father. I am very sorry you have to go through this. Is he willing to get help? Have you approached him in a somewhat understanding way instead of reacting from stress and frustration? If you can lay it on the line without accusing, scolding and belittling him, you have a better chance of him listening. If you do love him, approach him out of love

]]> Comment on Overcoming Sexual Temptation by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2009/04/overcoming-sexual-temptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1436 R Pike Mon, 07 May 2012 23:43:57 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=33#comment-1436 Get out of the place where you 'do the deed'. Physically move somewhere else and get your mind on other things. Get out of the place where you ‘do the deed’. Physically move somewhere else and get your mind on other things.

]]> Comment on Overcoming Sexual Temptation by melvin http://abattleplan.com/2009/04/overcoming-sexual-temptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1434 melvin Sat, 05 May 2012 20:59:26 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=33#comment-1434 i can go 5 to 6 days clean from porn or masturbation but then on the 7th or 8th day i'm tempted..i pray so hard but it arrives about five minutes later...at that point i continue to pray but it keeps coming back...what should i do at that point? i can go 5 to 6 days clean from porn or masturbation but then on the 7th or 8th day i’m tempted..i pray so hard but it arrives about five minutes later…at that point i continue to pray but it keeps coming back…what should i do at that point?

]]> Comment on Four reasons your husband looks at pornography by Pam http://abattleplan.com/2011/04/four-reasons-your-husband-looks-at-pornography/comment-page-1/#comment-1433 Pam Sat, 05 May 2012 06:44:58 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=340#comment-1433 This is crap! I am stressed too with an 8 month old and being 6 months pregnant. I'm an attractive woman and getting attention from other men makes me feel good but I understand as a married woman it's no longer appropriate! That was single behavior. Men need to get over all this bs they are taught to make it ok. I have had this fight with my husband of 9 months for the last time! I am raising 2 daughters (one due this summer) and I will not have them around this filth. I told him tonight he can get it together or get it out! I was raised by a porn addict father and my girls won't be subjected to it! I told if I leave I'm going back home 6 hours away & he can visit his kids whenever he can & hear about his daughter's birth through a phone call & picture. The choice is his but I am tired and over it!!! I'd love variety too but that's what commitment is about and if he can't grow up then he can move on! I deserve better! I also installed a keylogger and caught him redhanded tonight with screenshots too! This is crap! I am stressed too with an 8 month old and being 6 months pregnant. I’m an attractive woman and getting attention from other men makes me feel good but I understand as a married woman it’s no longer appropriate! That was single behavior. Men need to get over all this bs they are taught to make it ok. I have had this fight with my husband of 9 months for the last time! I am raising 2 daughters (one due this summer) and I will not have them around this filth. I told him tonight he can get it together or get it out! I was raised by a porn addict father and my girls won’t be subjected to it! I told if I leave I’m going back home 6 hours away & he can visit his kids whenever he can & hear about his daughter’s birth through a phone call & picture. The choice is his but I am tired and over it!!! I’d love variety too but that’s what commitment is about and if he can’t grow up then he can move on! I deserve better! I also installed a keylogger and caught him redhanded tonight with screenshots too!

]]> Comment on Accountability Partner for Porn addicts by Daniel F. Flaherty http://abattleplan.com/2009/05/accountability-partner-porn-addicts/comment-page-1/#comment-1426 Daniel F. Flaherty Thu, 26 Apr 2012 01:11:08 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=68#comment-1426 My wife left me and filed for divorce after over 25 years of marriage. Early in our marriage when my wife was cold to me, I would view pornography. For the last 12 years of our marriage, I had been relatively free from pornography. Occasionally I would fight images from past exposure to pornography when I was with my mate. I slipped several times over those 12 years and viewed pornography 2 times that I can remember but with the help of the Lord pornography was something that I shunned. After I returned from a short term mission trip in early April, I began to fall to internet porn. It has been especially bad the last two days. During the last couple of weeks I have slipped back and had a few bad days where I indulged in internet porn. I feel so bad and ashamed. I cannot think of any christian friend who I could level with who would keep what I say in confidence and would keep me accountable and encourage me without treating me like a worm. Is there any way that I might be able to find someone through your organization who would help me? I know that pornography is a dagger to my relationship with the Lord. I want to be pure in heart and please God. I just wish that I had a christian to keep me accountable. Is there any hope for me? My wife left me and filed for divorce after over 25 years of marriage. Early in our marriage when my wife was cold to me, I would view pornography. For the last 12 years of our marriage, I had been relatively free from pornography. Occasionally I would fight images from past exposure to pornography when I was with my mate. I slipped several times over those 12 years and viewed pornography 2 times that I can remember but with the help of the Lord pornography was something that I shunned.

After I returned from a short term mission trip in early April, I began to fall to internet porn. It has been especially bad the last two days. During the last couple of weeks I have slipped back and had a few bad days where I indulged in internet porn. I feel so bad and ashamed. I cannot think of any christian friend who I could level with who would keep what I say in confidence and would keep me accountable and encourage me without treating me like a worm. Is there any way that I might be able to find someone through your organization who would help me? I know that pornography is a dagger to my relationship with the Lord. I want to be pure in heart and please God. I just wish that I had a christian to keep me accountable. Is there any hope for me?

]]> Comment on Side effects for users of porn by chiknichameli http://abattleplan.com/2009/07/side-effects-users-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-1420 chiknichameli Fri, 20 Apr 2012 15:19:57 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=135#comment-1420 i'v read ur article nd watevr explanation nd symptoms u'v given regarding the problems seen during intercourse due to heavy/gud use of porn by the partner is very much tru nd similar to my problem indeed! i hv been married for only 2 yrs now!bt i'hv figured out dat my husband masterbates watching porns which is causing big prob to my married lyf!when i ws about to give him a divorce,he claimed that he wudnt do it anymore nd he is keeping his words.But,it the new problem now is that,he cant turn himself on witout watching porn!week passes by nd we keep trying to intercourse bt it becums hard for him to erect without help of porn.Should i actualy leave him?is he curable?how can he be cured nd wats will be my step?plzz help me i’v read ur article nd watevr explanation nd symptoms u’v given regarding the problems seen during intercourse due to heavy/gud use of porn by the partner is very much tru nd similar to my problem indeed! i hv been married for only 2 yrs now!bt i’hv figured out dat my husband masterbates watching porns which is causing big prob to my married lyf!when i ws about to give him a divorce,he claimed that he wudnt do it anymore nd he is keeping his words.But,it the new problem now is that,he cant turn himself on witout watching porn!week passes by nd we keep trying to intercourse bt it becums hard for him to erect without help of porn.Should i actualy leave him?is he curable?how can he be cured nd wats will be my step?plzz help me

]]> Comment on What Triggers Your Urge For Pornography? by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2009/11/what-triggers-your-urge-for-pornography/comment-page-1/#comment-1418 R Pike Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:49:28 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=164#comment-1418 Vicky. Like you said porn is satisfying but not fulfilling. What porn misses is the intimacy involved with another human. When did you start feeling unsatisfied with your husband? Before or after you started looking at pornography? Vicky. Like you said porn is satisfying but not fulfilling. What porn misses is the intimacy involved with another human. When did you start feeling unsatisfied with your husband? Before or after you started looking at pornography?

]]> Comment on Seductive schemes Satan uses against us by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2009/12/seductive-schemes-satan-uses-against-us/comment-page-1/#comment-1417 R Pike Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:46:38 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=179#comment-1417 We are made to be attracted to women. That is natural. What we do with that attraction is where the lines are drawn. Do we appreciate her beauty and move on, or dwell and lust for her? The thing that some women fail to realize is when they cross the line in how they dress. There are some ways in which they reveal way too much. In those instances, they are seeking the attention or do not know any better. Its unfortunate that society tells women that they have to dress provocatively to capture the attention of men. We are made to be attracted to women. That is natural. What we do with that attraction is where the lines are drawn. Do we appreciate her beauty and move on, or dwell and lust for her? The thing that some women fail to realize is when they cross the line in how they dress. There are some ways in which they reveal way too much. In those instances, they are seeking the attention or do not know any better. Its unfortunate that society tells women that they have to dress provocatively to capture the attention of men.

]]> Comment on Four reasons your husband looks at pornography by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2011/04/four-reasons-your-husband-looks-at-pornography/comment-page-1/#comment-1416 R Pike Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:42:44 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=340#comment-1416 Tina, what you say is true. It is not the woman's fault what the addict does. An addict chooses how they act out on what they see. The woman can however put their husbands sexual advances off one to many times. She can let her appearances fall by not practicing proper hygiene. Once the man is put off by his partner, he seeks elsewhere to get that satisfaction. That can lead into pornography and addiction. Does this make sense? Tina, what you say is true. It is not the woman’s fault what the addict does. An addict chooses how they act out on what they see. The woman can however put their husbands sexual advances off one to many times. She can let her appearances fall by not practicing proper hygiene. Once the man is put off by his partner, he seeks elsewhere to get that satisfaction. That can lead into pornography and addiction. Does this make sense?

]]> Comment on Side effects for users of porn by R Pike http://abattleplan.com/2009/07/side-effects-users-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-1415 R Pike Sat, 14 Apr 2012 13:36:25 +0000 http://abattleplan.com/?p=135#comment-1415 Roberto, Your statement is oh so true. When you get lost in the world of porn, its as is you have stepped into another dimension and you loose track of time. Countless hours are gone, never to return. Sad really, you only get so much time. Use it wisely and invest it in eternal causes and people you love. Thanks Roberto Roberto, Your statement is oh so true. When you get lost in the world of porn, its as is you have stepped into another dimension and you loose track of time. Countless hours are gone, never to return. Sad really, you only get so much time. Use it wisely and invest it in eternal causes and people you love. Thanks Roberto

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