Addicted to Porn? Here are a few signs you may have a problem with pornography
Many people want to know - ”How do I tell if I am addicted to pornography?” I have compiled a few points for you to consider when you are assessing whether you or someone you love has an addiction to porn. Some of the answers can only be done personally, but you will be able to place the other person’s behavior into these questions if assessing someone you love.
- You become ‘obsessed’ with it – you are constantly seeking another time to view porn- you plan your days around it. Has porn use become your number 1 or 2 need in your life? Do you find yourself looking forward to another session in front of the computer or TV screen? A porn addict will plan their days and free time around getting alone with pornography. Anticipation throughout the day will get them through their daily routine.
- Your mind frequently plays back the scenes you watched. Your mind is pre-occupied with sex. Sex fills most of your thought life. Do you find yourself daydreaming about sex? Do you find yourself sexualizing most every situation and turning it into a porn film fantasy? Do you look every woman up and down to consider what it would be like to have sex with her?
- You cannot control the urges that come. These urges order you to go get your fix. It is the greatest need in your life. Do you get yourself all worked up that you need to go use porn to get your fix? Do you have urges to use porn that haunt you all day long?
- Logic & safety goes out the window in pursuit of it. You will take risks to satisfy your need for it. Do you satisfy your desire for porn with risky behaviors – visiting adult book stores, view porn at work, view porn in public, go to strip clubs? Has the pursuit of you next fix led you to seek more risque forms of porn? Has ‘normal porn’ become boring to you? Are you into lesbian, fetishes, beastiality, teen, or illegal porn (child porn)? Are you interested or have you had an affair and considered hooking up with strangers for sex?
This list is not all inclusive, but will lead you in the right direction to consider your level of involvement in pornography. Just because you can’t identify with all these behaviors doesn’t mean you aren’t addicted.
Some people are more introverted in their addictions and keep it to themselves and think they are in control. They will not act out as far as risking careers, family, or jail in pursuit of their porn high.
Other people will drift into the extroverted and out of control behaviors. They are the ones who get into the most perverse forms of porn and will even get involved in affairs and sex with prostitutes.