Regular users and/or addicts of pornography generally have a handfull of triggers that set them off on another binge of pornography use. Many of you can identify with an event, a state of mind, or the influences that drive us to using porn. Here are a few items that may trigger your urges:
- A fight with the wife
- The glimpse of an attractive woman
- Free time
Let me share a really BIG one for all of us – suggestive ads –
This ad from netflix that features actress Megan Fox really caught my eye. Here’s why:
- She is attractive and the middle of the ad focuses on her breasts. – us men are obviously visually oriented.
- She has a look of vulnerability or fear on her face – this triggers the manly need to rescue her.
- She is posed in a way that asks you to help her, rescue her, love her.
I have seen this ad off to the side of my Yahoo mail at least 50 times and it has caught my eye everytime. In the past, I would have focused on this ad and it would have revved me up to the point of search for pornography then acting out. How do I respond differently now?
Initially I was caught off gaurd with this ad and quickly looked away. (fleeing) As I saw it more often I started to analyze what it was about that ad that was so appealing and those details are above. I did not take the ad into my head and run with it! This is where we get tripped up. You have to train yourself to stop the runaway thoughts that lead into acting out. You need to stop yourself, calm yourself down and move on to another subject. Don’t even entertain thoughts of sex for a few moments thinking you are just skirting the edge. You need to estinguish these lustful thoughts right away! Walk away for 10 minutes, change the channel, call a friend or your accountability partner – Don’t linger.
Many of the triggers that lead us down the road into acting out and using pornography can be counteracted by doing something to oppose that trigger. If boredom leads you into pornography sessions, you need to keep yourself busy – do something to occupy the time. If free time is your downfall, don’t allow yourself to have free time while you are alone. Leave the house and go into a public setting. Invite a friend over. Do you see where I am going? We have to set up a plan (in advance) of what will are going to do when we face a situation that could lead to our downfall. That action plan is a part of your overall Battle Plan to stop using pornography. You will then know what to do and excute the action plan to counteract these attacks before they start.
What are your triggers? What do you find helpfull to counteract everyday situations that could bring your down? Please comment.